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On feedback
“People who rarely receive criticism often take feedback too personally and miss opportunities to learn.
People who frequently receive criticism get used to ignoring what others say and also miss opportunities to learn.
The thing to focus on is the pattern. If you hear something once, don’t let it wreck your mindset. There are many ways to view the world and not everyone will agree with your approach.
But if you’re hearing something repeatedly, think carefully about whether the feedback is right.” - James Clear
On curiosity
“Listen with curiosity. Speak with honesty. Act with integrity. The greatest problem with communication is we don’t listen to understand. We listen to reply. When we listen with curiosity, we don’t listen with the intent to reply. We listen for what’s behind the words.” ― Roy T. Bennett
On boredom
“ ‘Boredom’ is essential. Staring into space. Staring at a tree. Sitting with yourself and seeing what comes up. It’s bloody uncomfortable. It’s damn painful. You come face to face with the mud in your life. You may be inspired toward action. You might be moved to jump into action immediately. Beware; another tactic. Doing nothing means just that - only that. Creating regular fertile time for newness to bloom is the point.” Yrsa Daley-Ward
On origins
Returning after six weeks with a republishing of a tribute piece to my parents.
On truth
“Suddenly I realize that the dichotomy between the false self and the authentic self that all these recovery people talk about is meaningless. […] A better way o think about it is the destructive self and the creative self: the you that damages your life and the lives of others, and the you that brings forth the best in yourself, is connected to others, and is in harmony with the world around you.” - Neil Strauss, The Truth
